Parent of a teen? Here's how to help!
We all know that parenting doesn’t come with a book. But, as a dedicated high school teacher dealing with over 100 different personalities a day, there are some commonalities that I’ve seen among all my students. I have the privilege of seeing how kids really feel, what they truly go through and I understand better what they need. If your teen seems distant or you’d like to know how to connect, these tips can help you out.
Be Present
No matter how old or how distant kids may become, your presence is still needed. Most parents work, but if you can spare some time make sure your kids know you support them. If it’s their sports events, band concert, or math competition, it’s so important to show up and show out for your kid. Those are truly the moments they’ll remember.
Structure is their Friend
Your teen may not admit it now, but they will be very grateful for the rules and expectations you set for them. It’s good for them to know that you trust them and want them to be happy, but ultimately, they need to know that you expect them to do the right things.
Be Active
Social media is a huge mountain to climb when it comes to your child’s safety and exposure to the world around them. I recommend following your child on all their social media outlets as long as they are under your roof or you are providing for them. There’s too much in the world, and I have seen first-hand how beneficial monitoring social media for a teen’s safety.
Listen
Your teen may seem like a ball of emotions, but they are still worthy of being listened to. They need to know that even if they don’t fully understand how they feel, you will still be there to hear them out and feel for them. Remember to let your kids vent or just give them hug. Sometimes they need it.
Get-to-know Each Other
I often hear people say, never befriend your child. I get it. You don’t want your child to feel as though you are both equals. However, I feel it is just as healthy to be vulnerable with your child. Let them know your fears. Tell them who you were and how you acted at their age. Lift them up in spirit by letting them see the human side of you. You’ll find that you both appreciate each other more when you understand each other.
I hope this helps! There is no right way to parent, but from the teen’s
perspective, these are some things I wish parents new. Happy Parenting!